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#31

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

That holy crap it doesn’t matter if she eats every bite of her dinner or if she’s being loud while she plays!!!

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I wish I would have given her some control over her life! As a mom it’s so easy to want to control everything but now I have only regrets about that.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Every day tons of times every day we hugged and kissed, it was even the last thing we did before she ran outside to play that day and never come back.

#32

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

That when a child won’t leave you alone it isn’t to pester you, it’s a very real need to have more time and attention from you.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

Got off the damned computer and turned off the damn tv and spent quality time with my kid.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Not a lot. Every day I am filled with giant regrets for wasting his childhood. I was not a good parent and it took him dying for me to know that.

#33

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

I wish I would have known that the pain of losing my firstborn son, the day after he was born, would still hurt after 28 years. Today happens to be the anniversary of his death.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I wish I would have been the one holding my son in my arms when he died the day after he was born. It is still a painful regret after 28 years.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Pour my overabundance of love into my other two children.

#34

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

That I was doing a great job and that my parenting instincts were right.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I wish I hadn’t worried about other people’s judgement on my parenting style and decisions and been confident that I was doing the best I could for my kids.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

I’m thankful I didn’t know she was terminal, that I didn’t let her medical/physical issues keep her from living a full life, & that she knew how loved & valued she was.


#35

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

I wish I would have known the outcome of those 3 days, I would have taken her to Riley instead of the ER.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I would have calmed down and instead of getting upset when she cried and was “needy” all the time, I would have just sat with her and held her.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

I got up after her death and kept putting one foot in front of the other.

#36

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

Life is too short and unpredictable to avoid the camera.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I don’t have any pictures of me with my son the last four years of his life because I felt like I was too ugly and fat and I didn’t want to be in the pictures. I’d give anything for just one picture of the two of us together right now.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

We always had the best movie and popcorn nights.

#37

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

It seems like forever but you will want those younger years back and wished they haven’t passed so fast.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

Less time on my phone… more time with my child.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Tell him I love him every day.



#38

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

How to live more in the moment in the time I had with her and spent less time grieving her loss while she was still here.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

Kept her home in my arms to die like I originally wanted instead of panicking and taking her to the hospital where she died in my arms still but hooked up to machines.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Never ever regretted having that sweet angel! She taught me what unconditional love really is and inspired me to become a nurse.

#39

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

That I would lose her unfairly at the tender age of two years.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

Been in a different time and place. Or, taken more video of her.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

Accept that it doesn’t get better, it just gets different. I had to cope so that I could wake up every day and continue to raise my son.

#40

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE KNOWN AS A PARENT:

It’s impossible, but I wish there was a way to tell people how it feels to have your heart outside of your body, out of your control.

WHAT YOU WISH YOU WOULD HAVE DONE DIFFERENTLY AS A PARENT:

I wish that I had videotaped every moment of her life.

WHAT YOU ARE THANKFUL YOU MADE SURE TO DO AS A PARENT:

I made sure she knew the person I really am, not a woman being destroyed by fear and the grief of losing her. I waited to let that woman out until after she died. She knew me.

Hold your kids. Play with your kids. Cherish your kids. And always make sure they know how much you love them.

Always.

Putting this post together has changed me for the better. I hope it will do the same for all of us.

Dan Pearce, from my Single Dad Laughing Blog

PS. Please keep in mind that this was only 40 random responses of the more than 200 responses from parents who have lost their children. I wish I could post them all. It would be my honor to share more of them in the future.